Moving Forward from the Election

Yesterday I woke up with a sick feeling in my stomach knowing that Donald Trump is our next president and the opportunity to elect Hillary is gone. Still, I woke up early, made my cup of coffee, and went to work as usual. Being in New York, there is definitely a strange and somber vibe going around.

I meant to post a celebratory chocolate chip cookie recipe on the blog yesterday and just didn’t have the heart to post it. But tomorrow, I’ll be back at it and hopefully a bit more restored.

I want to point out that there is still a large body (though more a minority than we'd like to think) of people who still want to and will fight for LGBTQ's, women's and minorities' rights. While we lost the election, we have not lost the sentiment of our message, or the will to do something about these issues moving forward. And so I am committing, along with so many of my inspiring friends and family, to stand for love, kindness, and compassion for all people—and to help bridge the great divide that is so evident in America. Let’s keep in mind, too, that there is hope. Below shows how the future voted, ages 18-25, in this election. There is opportunity in this map:


I’ve been in a haze. Pretty useless, in fact. But here’s what I’ve come to for now: no president, politician, man or woman has control over my mindset or my thoughts. I refuse to give anyone that much power over me. Figure out your view, what you can control—and take practical action in those areas. Reality, unfortunately, isn’t always a fairytale and it isn’t always fair. So we must acknowledge and accept what has happened (this doesn’t mean that we resign to it). From there, we adjust, tweak, and move forward taking steps to create the change we want to see.

Here's the thing: sure, sit with your pain and feel it, be with it, take time to feel your grief, sort out the shit. But I don't think it's good to stay there too long. Move forward and live your life with purpose. You don't need all the answers, or assurances that everything is going to be okay. Accept that there is no knowing right now. It is not black and white. There is not a clear cure. We need to accept this gray space, so we can free ourselves up to take positive action from this new vantage point, from a place of positivity and NOT from fear. Fear should NOT rule our actions here. Or ever.

So, I will protect my thoughts, stay positive, and keep on fighting the fight for equal rights for all, especially those that need it most. And believe with the hope of all hopes that change WILL come. 

And if you’re confused about where to go from here: start here .