On reversing the fog of overwhelm
I love talking about wellness trends and debunking the messed up state of our food industry. But I love talking about the condition of the soul more. You see, the brain is a funny thing. We aren’t just one thing, for all of time. We are fluid. Our experiences mold us and shape us, and while we like to feel that we are in control, the reality is that largely, we are not. Repeat it again: I am not in control. I am not in control. Whether I like it or not, I am not in control.
The first time I say it, I panic and fight it. The second time, I feel uncomfortable, and just don’t like the statement. But the third time, I start to feel the spark of release, relinquishing some pent up, squeezed-tight ‘something-or-other’ in the pit of my stomach. If I say it again, there might just be a visceral emotional response worth exploring. But I’ll cap it there.
I used to be an optimist. Then life happened, and I became a cynic. Now, I’m somewhere in the middle depending on the day. But through the fluctuation of daily experience, no amount of do-gooder perfectionism can change the fact that bad days still happen. ‘Meh’ days still happen. This fog that is a ‘meh’ day, overwhelmed, stressed, tired, and comparing ourselves to every successful person we know, requires nothing more than the cutting truth of clarity. Mental clarity and truth-seeking. The zoom-out, it’s not all about you kind of clarity, which sometimes rests itself in a haze of not knowing, not being certain. And that, I think, is a good thing.
And as I take a moment to put the blinders on to my own narcissism, I come into complete alignment with the core of who I am. And that core consists of everything in life that’s important. We’re not talking about possessions here—we’re talking about the people, moments, experiences in life that produce that stunning connection to the rest of humanity—and this Earth that we treasure so much. What does that connection feel like? It feels like being okay with not knowing what the future holds. And wide open space. And wide open freedom.
There must be quite a few things that a hot bath won’t cure, but I don’t know many of them.
– Sylvia Plath
Some practical tips to reverse the fog of being overwhelmed:
- Say no more often. Keep life just a wee bit more simple.
- Take a social media fast.
- Put your blinders on—no more comparing yourself to other people.
- Start a gratitude practice.
- Reframe your situation so that you begin to appreciate your experience a bit more.
- Prioritize, rework your schedule to fit your needs.
- Breath, stretch, move.
- Take a bath. :)